Working on an article in these days about Godly patterns of speech and was led to review all of the book of Proverbs on its wisdom in this area.
A vast number of references to the subject.
From that research comes these interesting verses, with a focus that caught my attention.
10:19 - When words are many, sin is not absent.
11:13 - A gossip betrays a confidence but a trusted man keeps a secret
12:18 - reckless words pierce like a sword,
but the tongue of a wise man brings healing
13:3 - He who guards his lips guards his life -
he who speaks rashly will come to ruin
16:9 - He who covers over an offense promotes love,
but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.
16:14 - Starting a quarrel is like breaking a dam;
so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out
17:28 - Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent (why am I smiling?)
20:19 - Avoid a man who talks too much
25:15 - A gentle tongue can break a bone.
In cultural context it means, persistence in gentleness can break down the hardest of objects, the nastiest of spirits, the most rigid of defenses.
Well, that is a partial listing of what I found. I note that I need to keep learning to weigh what I say before I speak. Too often I have spoken much to fill the air with myself...striving for affirmation or control.
Let's work on this: NOT responding with our ideas quickly, but asking a question or just listening. Often when I have done this I have discovered an early response would have been one that led in the wrong direction.
May we be wise today...